Dating a 40 year old
I am told that women want to settle down and have kids, etc., but their actions seem to be to the contrary.At singles events, women come in groups and are reluctant to talk to men.I find the latter hard to believe, but find this mantra in every profile of every professional woman online. What you’re missing is that what you want has absolutely no relation to what women want. The problem is that many women from 27-34 are independent professionals just like their male peers.Any advice on how to navigate these new paradigms in the dating world? And to directly address your email, I have to divide my response into two different parts: 1) What You’re Getting Right and 2) What You’re Missing. We’ve addressed this before, from an older man who couldn’t possibly fathom why a younger woman wouldn’t want to be with him. We can complain that the opposite sex is unrealistic and passing up great opportunities — and we’d be right — but it doesn’t change that people want what they want. They, too, have a lot of dating options, are busy building their careers, and don’t have a clear urgency to settle down. Theoretically, this is when want to have time before becoming dads.Just like how you’ve dated your share of challenging types of men like the disappearing/reappearing Pinger, the Couch Potato, and the older-and-balder-than-his-profile-guy…men meet and enter into relationships with less-than-impressive types of women.I’ve talked to countless single men over the years about their experiences with women, especially those in midlife and beyond.The 35-40-year-old women who ARE ready for marriage, unfortunately, are roundly ignored by the men they desire — their 35-40-year-old peers.
These women still have money to make, places to travel and oats to sow.
The Scaredy Cat he Scaredy Cat has been emotionally wounded by men in the past, and she can’t let go of it.
She mistrusts men and often blames herself for the rejection she’s felt, believing that she just wasn’t good enough.
The Princess has an “I deserve it” attitude and has little or no concern for how she can make the other person happy.
She insists he give and give with little or no reciprocity; after all, he’s The Man and she’s his prize!