Dating profile comparisons
This is when you do things like use similar language or express similar interests as the person you’re interested in.
A couple of studies published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin and reported on by The Huffington Post shows confident, and even overconfident, online daters are considered more desirable. The studies also found that if you take it too far, then you’ll come off as arrogant instead.For example, “Volunteering for my local Humane Society is my true passion, and I’d love to find someone who cares about animals, too.” WIRED recently conducted a study that analyzed data from Ok Cupid and Match to identify the words the most successful dating profiles had in common.Besides talking generally about relationships, the researchers suggest you should also try to work in words like “surfing” and “yoga.” You don’t have to actually be into surfing or yoga to use these words, though.Think about how you would feel if you read a guy’s profile that said something like “I want a blonde, blue-eyed woman who isn’t over 5’5″, is a doctor, doesn’t smoke, has never been married, loves dogs but hates cats, enjoys Italian food but hates Indian food, knows every word to every Beatles song, and has visited all Seven Wonders of the World.” OK, that’s an extreme example, but you know what I mean.Avoid lists like “I want a blonde, blue-eyed man who is over 6 feet tall, is a doctor, doesn’t smoke, has never been married, loves dogs but hates cats, enjoys Italian food but hates Indian food, knows every word to every Beatles song, and has visited all Seven Wonders of the World.” It’s unlikely that you’ll find someone who can check off all the things on your list, and you probably can’t check off everything on his list either. So, pick the most important qualities you’re looking for and be more specific about those instead of creating an exhaustive list.